A Hard Reset: Embracing Change and Connection

September 1, 2025

I haven’t talked to y’all in a minute…a little over two years. Life has been life-ing in all the ways imaginable.

I for real have struggled with trying to find the right words and being in the mental headspace to actually explore things on the page. I had some emotionally overwhelming moments where I fought through grief, uncertainty, confusion, just trying to figure it all out. I spent time just surviving.

I think more than anything I spent time searching for a connection with a friend, a family member, a coworker… just someone who could really see me as me. I wanted a space where I didn’t have to shrink myself or feel less than. I wanted a space where I didn’t have to pretend to be OK. I wanted a space where me being vulnerable was appreciated. I wanted a space where I felt safe. That’s where the shift took place.

I went inward to design a safe space for me. Like, I sincerely had to spend some time traversing the depths of my own soul, starting with my creativity. I set out on a quest to reclaim my creative energy. I jumped out there in ways beyond my wildest dreams. I started a candle business, went to bartending school, became a brand ambassador for Black owned liquor companies, bartended private events for the mobile bartending company that runs the school I attended, embarked upon a healing and spiritual journey, started having every difficult conversation that I felt was keeping me from being the happiest version of myself, and I did it all afraid and without a safety net. I even begun researching a topic that is significant to me.

September 1st is a hard reset. I checked items off of my to-do list today that had been lingering for over a year. I pressed on and got it done, and am inspired to go the distance. Getting back to the consistency of writing and posting is on my spirit something heavy, so look for an update next week. But most importantly, I reconnected with me. I reconnected with my higher power. I discovered something within that has fostered a space of growth both internally and externally.

I know this is a bit rambly, but it was necessary to get it out. What have the past two years been like for you? Share in the comments.